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listen idk what’s so difficult to grasp about bdsm

i’m a sane, rational adult. i have a full-time job, i do laundry, sometimes i eat a vegetable. and occasionally i just want to get the shit beat out of me. it’s not that hard to understand

#SAME #its enjoying pain in a controlled safe environment #or enjoying control in a safe environment #like people go to scary movies and do martial arts #we ride rollercoasters and eat spicy food for fun #whats so different about enjoying pain as long as theres that underlying safety?#after a scary movie is over we can relax because we had fun and we know that nobody wants to actually hurt us (via @nsfw-sin)

ye i mean like i have a very stressful job and i’m tired a lot and sometimes i want to give that control over to someone else for a little bit??? pain isn’t always bad. and it’s not just pain that feels “good,” per se– it’s the adrenaline rush after, and the aftercare, and the knowledge that it will stop the second you need it to. in a true respect-based bdsm relationship, the sub has total power over the scene because they know that their dom is acting according to the limits they’ve established and discussed thoroughly beforehand.

it’s just as much a thrill as buckling into a rollercoaster or bungee jumping. and bdsm isn’t always sexual, either. sometimes you just feel like you need to be restrained, and then you do nothing but cuddle and watch parks and rec with the addition of some rope. it’s p chill, dude

exactly. i feel like a lot of what submissives like about bdsm is that it can stop whenever they want it to. it’s a fully, constantly consensual experience, so they can actually mentally relax into whatever their chosen activity is. no worries, no stress, just the reassurance and excitement of the play. like, for me personally, it’s cathartic and exciting to be able to get pain when i want it, not just as a random traumatic experience. the entire practice is founded on safety and control on both sides.

i hate that lots of people shit on bdsm, but i can’t blame the uninformed public for their misconceptions when there are certain people making dangerous misconceptions into movies, and when predators take advantage of community members on the regular. i do, however, think there needs to be more general public knowledge of what bdsm should be to combat the people taking advantage of misinformation.